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Tendency to lose, self-sabotage, or feel stressed as success nears or a project approaches completion

 The psychological underpinnings of the tendency to lose, self-sabotage, or feel stressed as success nears or a project approaches completion can be multifaceted and complex. Here are some key concepts and theories that help explain these tendencies:

    Fear of Success: This concept, originally formulated by Matina Horner in the early 1970s, posits that individuals might subconsciously fear the consequences of success, such as increased responsibility, expectations, or social isolation. This fear can lead to self-sabotage as a way to avoid these perceived negative outcomes.

    Imposter Syndrome: Individuals suffering from imposter syndrome doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent fear of being exposed as a "fraud." This can lead to stress and anxiety as one approaches success or project completion because success brings more attention and the potential for their perceived inadequacies to be exposed.

    Perfectionism: Perfectionists often set unrealistically high standards for themselves and can experience significant stress and anxiety as they approach the completion of a project or goal. Their focus on avoiding mistakes can lead to procrastination or sabotage as a way to avoid potential failure or criticism.

    Avoidance of Change: Success and the completion of projects often bring change, and some individuals might have a deep-seated fear of change due to the uncertainty it brings. This can lead to behaviors aimed at maintaining the status quo, even at the cost of personal progress or success.

    Self-Worth Issues: For some, their self-worth might be linked to their struggles or the perception of themselves as an underdog. Achieving success might challenge these ingrained self-perceptions, leading to discomfort and self-sabotaging behaviors to revert to a more familiar state.

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